RACHELLE MILLAR

Rachelle Millar works with clients suffering from existential crisis.  Questioning, “What’s the point?”. 

 

Relationship issues with loved ones. Divorce and separation or pain of solo parenting with a narcissist.  Grief from a loss of family or their previous life before motherhood. Triggering, overwhelm, anxiety and stress. Unaddressed leads to physical or financial sickness and sadness/depression.   

Not satisfied from learning in the school of hard knocks. Rachelle has formal training and academic qualifications in psychology, counselling and therapy, energy healing/theta healing. Technical skills in sales, negotiation, business management and leadership. Adding theory and understanding to what is happening for her clients and challenging her practice.

Her message is, if you are not satisfied with your life and what is happening to you, look within. 

Address how you are showing up in the world.  Work on yourself.  No one else is going to be able to do it but you.  And take charge of your life.

20 years in corporate learning and development saw her challenge learners keen to just tick a box. Passionate about behaviour change, she will challenge you and hold you accountable.  She will risk your approval. Walk outside of your comfort zone. Helping you become everything you hadn’t dreamed of.

Working from her dream home in Te Arai, NZ. Rachelle is available to the world online.

Psychosynthesis

A psychospiritual counselling model focusing on what we may be and become...

Theta Healing

An intuitive energy based healing that works on your belief systems changing your situation quickly...

EQ

Increase your capacity to lead others and manage relationships by being intelligent about your emotions...

Positive Psych

Build resilience and mental toughness to manage work/life balance...

Rachelle achieved her dream of living on a 10 acre lifestyle block at Te Arai Point, Auckland, NZ with her two teenage boys along with her golden horse.  The family is highly involved in all things equestrian, surfing and skiing.  

As a solo mumpreneur since the boys were 6-weeks and 1 year old (Irish Twins) she has built a resilience that she is passionate about sharing with other parents so that they may be able to achieve their dreams too.

 

Psychosynthesis

Psychosynthesis is a therapeutic approach that focuses on personal growth and development. Practitioners of psychosynthesis believe individuals tend to synthesize various aspects of the self to become more evolved and self-actualized. This method of therapy can be viewed as a transpersonal approach because it integrates many aspects of the human experience, including spiritualemotional, cognitive, and physical aspects. 

Individuals seeking therapy to learn about themselves or feel more connected with their environment may benefit from psychosynthesis. Those with existential concerns may also find this form of therapy useful. 

HISTORY AND DEVELOPMENT OF PSYCHOSYNTHESIS

Psychosynthesis was developed by Italian psychiatrist Roberto Assagioli in the early 1900s. Assagioli was interested in psychoanalysis and among the first to bring Freud’s theories to Italy. However, Assagioli felt Freud neglected some important aspects of the human experience and advocated for a more inclusive, holistic perspective on humanity.

 

The creation of psychosynthesis was influenced by Assagioli’s interest in yogaphilosophy, theology, and the work of Carl Jung. He focused on the individual’s spiritual experience and how various aspects of the self attempt to reach harmony. Assagioli believed a person’s primary task is to find a sense of completeness within the self and a connection to a larger whole, such as one’s community or the world. 

THEORY AND PRINCIPLES

There are a few core ideas crucial to psychosynthesis, and the first is the idea of disidentification. When a person disidentifies, they can move freely among different thoughts, feelings, and behaviors rather than being stuck in one way of existing. Psychosynthesis suggests that empathy provides a path to disidentification. According to psychosynthesis, when an individual is fully seen and understood by another, they can authentically explore their emotional experience and be themselves without constraint or limitation. 

Another core concept of psychosynthesis is the idea of the self. Assagioli believed individuals can explore their personal experience as it becomes conscious through introspection, giving them a sense of identity. He also theorized that to make changes and avoid unconscious repetition, an individual must use their will. The will provides the capacity to make conscious choices about where to direct awareness and how to act. 

The concept of synthesis is another important component of psychosynthesis. Assagioli theorized that people are not unified wholes but are instead made up of various subpersonalities. Synthesis, then, is a process in which these subpersonalities become a larger, organic whole. While the subpersonalities may not always exist in perfect harmony, synthesis involves finding a way to empathically relate to each aspect of the self. 

While Freud focused on the unconscious, Assagioli was interested in other levels of consciousness, such as the superconscious, another key aspect of psychosynthesis. The superconscious is described as a higher level of consciousness that is not directly accessed but inferred from moments of peak experiences. Connecting with the superconscious is said to involve a profound moment when an individual feels both connected to the world around them and as if they have glimpsed the deeper meaning of life. 

WHAT IS A PSYCHOSYNTHESIS SESSION LIKE?

At a basic level, psychosynthesis is a type of talk therapy. Like psychoanalysis, it involves focus on introspection and exploration of the unconscious. Introspection, or empathic self-exploration, is highly encouraged in psychosynthesis, as it allows a person to consciously explore various aspects of the self in order to increase insight and allow for growth and development.

Guided imagery, symbolic artwork, and journaling might all be used to help an individual become more introspective. Other techniques that can be used in psychosynthesis include meditationgestalt techniques, and encouraging creativity. People who practice psychosynthesis believe nearly any method that assists an individual in their personal evolvement is useful.

HOW CAN PSYCHOSYNTHESIS HELP? 

Like psychoanalysis, psychosynthesis is a broad theory of psychology, designed to help with a wide range of issues and with human development in general. Assagioli believed psychosynthesis could effectively treat neuroses, trauma, anxiety, and depression. As this method of therapy is focused on growth and development, it may also be particularly useful for individuals who have difficulty understanding themselves or finding meaning and purpose in their lives.

The use of psychosynthesis can extend beyond just therapy and mental health. The core concepts of psychosynthesis, including personal growth and connection between self and others, have been used in education, medicine, and business.

 

Theta Healing

The ThetaHealing technique was created by Vianna Stibal in 1995 during her own personal journey back to health and after she healed from a 9-in tumor in her leg.

The ThetaHealing technique is a meditation technique and spiritual philosophy - not specific to one religion but accepting them all - with the purpose of getting closer to the Creator. It is a training method for your mind, body and spirit that allows you to clear limiting beliefs and live life with positive thoughts, developing virtues in all that we do. Through meditation and prayer, the ThetaHealing Technique creates a positive lifestyle.

The ThetaHealing technique is always taught to be used in conjunction with conventional medicine. It teaches how to put to use one's own natural intuition, relying upon unconditional love of Creator Of All That Is to do the actual “work.” We believe by changing your brain wave cycle to include the “Theta” state, you can actually watch the Creator Of All That Is create instantaneous physical and emotional wellbeing. We have learned that through the ThetaHealing Technique intuitive abilities can be used to bring about spontaneous physical and emotional wellbeing.

Our philosophy is to live, train, and coach others how to achieve a better life through the pure essence of love. This technique allows us to work with the Creator to help attain harmony in our mind, body and spirit. We are best known for the 7 Planes of Existence. Using this concept, the practitioner uses the meditation technique to connect with a higher spiritual power of his/her own belief and commands a change as requested by that individual.

EQ - Emotional Intelligence

 

Emotional intelligence (otherwise known as emotional quotient or EQ) is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. Emotional intelligence helps you build stronger relationships, succeed at school and work, and achieve your career and personal goals. It can also help you to connect with your feelings, turn intention into action, and make informed decisions about what matters most to you.

Emotional intelligence is commonly defined by four attributes:

  1. Self-management – You’re able to control impulsive feelings and behaviors, manage your emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on commitments, and adapt to changing circumstances.

  2. Self-awareness – You recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior. You know your strengths and weaknesses, and have self-confidence.

  3. Social awareness – You have empathy. You can understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people, pick up on emotional cues, feel comfortable socially, and recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.

  4. Relationship management – You know how to develop and maintain good relationships, communicate clearly, inspire and influence others, work well in a team, and manage conflict.

 

Why is emotional intelligence so important?

As we know, it’s not the smartest people who are the most successful or the most fulfilled in life. You probably know people who are academically brilliant and yet are socially inept and unsuccessful at work or in their personal relationships. Intellectual ability or your intelligence quotient (IQ) isn’t enough on its own to achieve success in life. Yes, your IQ can help you get into college, but it’s your EQ that will help you manage the stress and emotions when facing your final exams. IQ and EQ exist in tandem and are most effective when they build off one another.

 

Emotional intelligence affects:

Your performance at school or work. High emotional intelligence can help you navigate the social complexities of the workplace, lead and motivate others, and excel in your career. In fact, when it comes to gauging important job candidates, many companies now rate emotional intelligence as important as technical ability and employ EQ testing before hiring.

Your physical health. If you’re unable to manage your emotions, you are probably not managing your stress either. This can lead to serious health problems. Uncontrolled stress raises blood pressure, suppresses the immune system, increases the risk of heart attacks and strokes, contributes to infertility, and speeds up the aging process. The first step to improving emotional intelligence is to learn how to manage stress.

Your mental health. Uncontrolled emotions and stress can also impact your mental health, making you vulnerable to anxiety and depression. If you are unable to understand, get comfortable with, or manage your emotions, you’ll also struggle to form strong relationships. This in turn can leave you feeling lonely and isolated and further exacerbate any mental health problems.

Your relationships. By understanding your emotions and how to control them, you’re better able to express how you feel and understand how others are feeling. This allows you to communicate more effectively and forge stronger relationships, both at work and in your personal life.

Your social intelligence. Being in tune with your emotions serves a social purpose, connecting you to other people and the world around you. Social intelligence enables you to recognize friend from foe, measure another person’s interest in you, reduce stress, balance your nervous system through social communication, and feel loved and happy.

Positive Psychology

 

Positive psychology is the study of the "good life", or the positive aspects of the human experience that make life worth living. As an art, it focuses on both individual and societal well-being.

Positive psychology began as a domain of psychology in 1998 when Martin Seligman chose it as the theme for his term as president of the American Psychological Association. It is a reaction against psychoanalysis and behaviorism, which have focused on "mental illness", meanwhile emphasising maladaptive behavior and negative thinking. It builds further on the humanistic movement, which encouraged an emphasis on happiness, well-being, and positivity, thus creating the foundation for what is now known as positive psychology.

Positive psychologists have suggested a number of ways in which individual happiness may be fostered. Social ties with a spouse, family, friends and wider networks through work, clubs or social organisations are of particular importance, while physical exercise and the practice of meditation may also contribute to happiness. Happiness may rise with increasing financial income, though it may plateau or even fall when no further gains are made.

Martin Seligman and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi define positive psychology as "... the scientific study of positive human functioning and flourishing on multiple levels that include the biological, personal, relational, institutional, cultural, and global dimensions of life.

Basic Concepts

Positive psychology is concerned with eudaimonia, "the good life" or flourishing, living according to what holds the greatest value in life – the factors that contribute the most to a well-lived and fulfilling life. While not attempting a strict definition of the good life, positive psychologists agree that one must live a happy, engaged, and meaningful life in order to experience "the good life". Martin Seligman referred to "the good life" as "using your signature strengths every day to produce authentic happiness and abundant gratification".

Positive psychology complements, without intending to replace or ignore, the traditional areas of psychology. By emphasizing the study of positive human development this field helps to balance other approaches that focus on disorder, and which may produce only limited understanding.[8] Positive psychology has also placed a significant emphasis on fostering positive self-esteem and self-image, though positive psychologists with a less humanist bent are less likely to focus as intently on the matter. 

The basic premise of positive psychology is that human beings are often drawn by the future more than they are driven by the past. A change in our orientation to time can dramatically affect how we think about the nature of happiness. Seligman identified other possible goals: families and schools that allow children to grow, workplaces that aim for satisfaction and high productivity, and teaching others about positive psychology.

Those who practice positive psychology attempt psychological interventions that foster positive attitudes toward one's subjective experiences, individual traits, and life events.The goal is to minimize pathological thoughts that may arise in a hopeless mindset, and to, instead, develop a sense of optimism toward life. Positive psychologists seek to encourage acceptance of one's past, excitement and optimism about one's future experiences, and a sense of contentment and well-being in the present.